WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

A friend asked me one of the most asked questions I’ve known: WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

For centuries, studies were made and people are trying to justify why men cheat. I’ve accepted the fact that male are polygamous in nature, but I think it’s not enough to justify the reason why men cheat. Some guys…very few of them, don’t really cheat on their lovers and fidelity was never an issue.

I’m not a psychologist or have a Phd on studies like this, but I came up with my own conclusions as of why guys don’t or can’t settle with the one they "promised" to be with, for the rest of their life. I think there are several "good" reasons guys have and we, girls, just have to understand it. One of my ex did cheat on me and I never really accepted his reasons, not until now. Maybe because I’m less emotional, with the fact that guys can’t be fully loyal with the one they love, and maybe because I’m (i think) a man-hater now than before.

First, in a relationship, I strongly believe that ones personality and beliefs matters a lot. We are mostly deceived by guys’ endless promises, sweet nothings and once our feet are swept away by these boo-boos called LOVE, it's all too late when we happened to learn more about who our guy really is on the latter part of the relationship. No time frame needed; as long as a girl is blinded with their love for her guy, she will never understand anything and accept the fact that even the nicest men in the world has the tendency to cheat. So why do men cheat??

I came up with only three reasons on why our boys play around behind us. First, they want a more adventurous sex life. C’mon…each person have own their sexual desires and needs, and once their partner fails to meet that specific need, our animal instinct within us drives us to go to the wilds and do whatever it is to satisfy it. Girls can handle this situation more than guys does…deal with it gentlemen!! That’s why we often heard those nonsensical excuse such as "she’s the one started it!", "she initiated it…", "I’m just teased by this bitch" and think of other darn words to defend themselves. Truth is, guys wanted it too, the sense of thrill that they have to creep and do nasty things behind their girls is perhaps one of the dirty deeds each guys have in their mind. It makes them feel like kids breaking school rules and wishing that their teacher will never catch them red handed. I think this is one of the reasons why most people say "Maybe the girl is goooood….", when they saw a cute guy with a not so admirable girl as their partner. For me one of the girl’s role is to sexually satisfy their partner…but hey this is only for those who are old enough to be responsible and those who are married. Beware though; for even though we think we are satisfying them enough, there is still the tendency for the guy to find another girl.

Then here’s my second conclusion why guys cheat.

Guys would love to stick to someone who can make them be who they are. OK, when I told my friend about this, she came up with this question "aren’t you supposed to be comfortable when you’re with the one you love?". True! But in a relationship, sometimes guys lose their comfort and feels like it’s their partner who’s leading their life and not them. When the guy feels that their girl is turning to be like their mom, believe me, they freak out!! Guys like a touch of jealousy in a relationship and girls being upfront and steadfast, but just like in any case, too much of something is really bad. A guy has a tendency to lose their comfort with their partner, if their girl don't mind them that much too, like making them feel that they are less important and if they suddenly realize that they are no longer included on the girl’s plans or if they feel that they are being claustrophobic, because the girls’ world only revolves on him. Once they lose themselves or the comfort they used to have, hell will break lose, and girls will find their men cheating on them. See it ain’t just all about sex!

Lastly, this is something not all girls get accept right away but eventually will, is guys cheat if they don’t love their partners anymore. This is true. Guys cheat just to end their relationship with their partners, which I think the most unmanly and stupid thing in the world! Need I have to explain further? Let’s make it simple, a guy don’t love his girlfriend and found a "victim" who’s willing to be their prey. The legitimate girl found out about the dirty deed, guy blames the girl, girl fire back by hacking their boyfriend’s Facebook account and curse him to death, they talk, they break up, girl cries and thinks it’s because she’s ugly, the guy is happy because this is the scenario he has in mind, and has been going on for centuries. Then finally, he gets rid of the one he no longer love! What an ugly picture, but it does happened and it is happening somewhere right now, as you read this!

See, we, girls should make our life less complicated and should stop thinking too much on why some guys wants to have a taste of something "new". Guys have the ability to come up with many reasons, tons of excuse but it all boils down to only three things: Lame sex life with their partners, losing comfort on a relationship and lost love (worst is, if it’s all of their reasons). They are all just translated in different ways, languages and actions. I don’t really know how to avoid it, because it depends on how much a girl knows their guy and the kind of relationship they have, but these were the sole reason I can think of, on why guys love to "play around".